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In Malaysia, gays, lesbians, transgender and transvestites are all considered scourge of society. Authorities in Malaysia who claim to be moralist do take serious measures to quell “immoral acts”, because to them, Malaysia is a moral country. Is it?

Malaysia also does not condone “SEXS LUAR TABII (unnatural sex)”…even a blow job would be considered unnatural sex, don’t talk about SODOMY as that too would land you in jail for up to 20 years like Anwar Ibrahim. Anwar is now fighting so hard to stay out of jail for having had unnatural sex with a 25-year-old gay name Saiful. In fact this is the second time Anwar Ibrahim has been involved in a sex trial. He lost his post as Deputy Prime Minister in 1998 after being charged with sodomising his family’s former driver Azizan and abusing his power as DPM to cover up his actions, both of which he denied. He was freed in 2004 after six years in prison when a court overturned the sodomy conviction.

Wonder why so many people in Malaysia are homophobic? What do they have against a man loving another man or a woman loving another woman? Is it not that Love is something that every person in this world feels or is capable of feeling? So what if that love happens to be directed at someone of the same gender? I don’t understand what so big deal about this.

Please, please don’t get it wrong, I, myself am straight, but I support Gay Rights. Why? Because I was raised to be accepting of people who were different from me. Not only that, I also have friends who are homosexuals and I find them to be very nice people and I find them very creative and talented, true! Look at Elton John, such a great singer songwriter he is. Remember David Bowie, Freddie Mercury, Boy George, Ricky Wilson, George Michael, Ricky Martin and so many more, our own Sudirmam Hj Arshad – all very talented and creative people! In fact, I do have a relative who is a doctor but gay (boy! my relatives are going to hate me for saying this here).

Speaking of which, I do understand that some people were raised to be intolerant of difference, but that explanation only goes so far.

Is this all merely an outward reaction to the insecurity (conscious OR subconscious) in one’s own sexuality? Or is there something else to it?

Now, I’m gonna be honest here because I’m sure someone from my church out there is gonna read this and start throwing bible passages at my face and condemn me for not being religious and for haven’t taken the time to read the bible.

Jokes aside, anyway below please find a video of “Ahmad” a Malaysian, living in Kuala Lumpur, who shares his struggles of being gay in Malaysia.


You are more likely to ‘forgive and forget’ when you have been hurt by a lover rather than by a friend, says a new study.

The study by Clinical Psychology Doctoral candidate, Jodie Burchell of Australian National University (ANU) is the first who asked people how hurt they have felt when wronged by a romantic partner, a close friend and an acquaintance.

Burchell’s study is investigating whether the closeness of the relationship with the perpetrator of the hurtful event predicts how hurt a person reports feeling.

“The study found that no matter the event – whether it caused low or high hurt – people felt most hurt by those they were in close relationships with,” said Burchell.

“However, over time, people felt less hurt from events occurring in a highly intimate relationship, such as with a romantic partner, than they did in a moderately close relationship, such as with a close friend.” Added Burchell.

“That suggests that highly intimate relationships can both facilitate the greatest feelings of hurt, and best encourage their healing,” adds Burchell.

The results are drawn from two questionnaires. In the first, participants read stories representing either low or high hurt situations across a range of relationships.

In the second, participants recalled the most hurtful thing that their current romantic partner, close friend or acquaintance had done to them, says an ANU release.

“The results taken together suggest that people that are closer to the victim of the hurtful event are more able to inflict hurt upon them, regardless of the type of hurtful act they commit,” said Burchell.

“However, people may be more willing to forgive their current romantic partners for hurtful acts, if they choose to stay with them. This is in contrast to close friends, where many people reported being unable to regain trust and quality of relationship after very hurtful acts.” Burchell added.